Most people think that the keys to life are money, power, fortune and fame. But what are all those things if you don't have anyone to share it with? For me, All of those things just bring greed and hatred. Look at celebrities. Their almost all divorced, at least twice, have some sort of drug or alcohol problem, are "acting out" and end up on the cover of some tabloid for some mental issue, home or family issue or reason for why they felt the need to accidently steal something when they have enough movey to by one of each for everyone in the world.
I try to tell people some things I've learned throughout my life, however no one wants to listen. I commomly hear "look at your life, youre the last person I want to take advice from." But honestly, that's why you need to at least listen to me, wether you take the advice or not.
If I had to do it all over again, I would defianalty tell someone that getting married at 22 is WAY too young. And also, to date at least a year and a half, if not two. that gives you plenty of time to get to know your significant other. To learn the likes and interestes...to get to know them...and to hopefully piss each other off enough times to learn if you can deal with the way they express themselves and their anger, and they can deal with yours, and the two of you can overcome the situtation.
I would also tell them, that money and status mean nothing. No one cares who you were in high school, who you met in your lifetime, how much money you have or what kind of car you drive. All those things are material things that are not going to last. If they matter to someone, then that's probably not someone you want to be involved with. Power and greed take over. They are easily contagious and catchable. And it's not healthy. It's not a good way to live or present yourself. Humbleness and charity. No one should know how much money you do or don't make. It's not their business. It brings greed and envy. That's private and should be kept so. I'm not saying not to have nice things. Everyone deserves nice things. They work hard for it. But don't go out and but that 20K mercedes when your budget allows for it, but it makes you live paycheck to paycheck.
Always save. Savings are smart and simple. And it should be one of the first things you do with your paycheck. You never know when an emergency will arise. With or without health insurance.
I've found life isn't fun if you let money and popularity rule your life. you forget the important things and lose sight of yourself as well as the wellbeing of others. Charity, faith, humility and kindness are all the wealth and power I need.
I agree, money isn't what life's all about, not at all. But just because someone has money doesn't mean they are bad people. I know so many wonderful people who have worked hard and in return have received a nice income. They use their money to bless their children's lives and the lives of those less fortunate. When money is used that way and one doesn't let it get to their head then having money is a wonderful thing. Also, I got married at 22 (almost 23) and I used to always say to date someone for a long time, but my mind changed since I met my husband. I knew he was the one I wanted to be with forever very early on. It surprised me how fast I knew, because before I was always skeptical of those "fast engagements". But I've learned that because everyone's dating experience is so different and unique you just have to listen to the spirit very closely on that and know what's best for you and not concern yourself with the way others handle their relationships. Anyway, nice blog Dusti. I love hearing and sharing these kind of thoughts!
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